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Monday, January 7, 2013

L'chaim - knocking on booze...

Bourbon on the rocks - image credit: Shore Leave Media
Shavuah Tov readers, a good week to you all. A special thanks to UnKosher Rabbi for letting me and Mr. Shore contribute. Here's my first go!

It struck me, with the New Year's festivities just past us, and future opportunities to drink ourselves silly await, it might be a good time to share a bit of learning I got from a Rabbi of mine.

Why do we say L'chaim before we toast? Like most cultural practices, its origins are perhaps a bit obscured - and I never expected the literal answer from a Rabbi. But there is a very important spiritual lesson - perhaps spiritual-stition - wrapped up in the practice.

L'chaim means 'To Life.' We want to reaffirm our commitment to life - especially when we drink alcohol - because it's a substance and a situation that could go one of two ways. Anyone who knows someone who has suffered from alcoholism (or who knows a family member of someone suffering from alcoholism), knows that there is always the potential for alcohol to enslave us. Alcohol can take us away from our lives - both figuratively and (left unchecked) literally.

But alcohol also leads to conviviality, honest talk, joyous celebration, and even sanctification of a moment, an act, or occasion. We say L'chaim together before we drink to affirm our hope that this drink, and all that follow, are there to support us in our lives. That this drink be only for the good, and brings us closer to Gd and our fellows.

May your steps and stumbles lead you to a closer relationship with your life. May you live it fully as Gd intended. L'chaim!

Monday, December 31, 2012

Chai Tevet - חי טבת




The Hebrew months offer a unique window into the annual cycle of memory in Jewish life. To learn about any one month is to learn about what happened in those days at this time. 

Today (sundown Sunday through sundown Monday) is the 18th of Tevet. Tevet has the last two days of Chanukah at its beginning, but soon becomes a month of sorrowful events.

There are three fast-days, the 8th, 9th, and 10th come next in the month. Though few Jews who are not orthodox fast at all outside of Yom Kippur, even fewer observe the fasts on the 8th and 9th. On the 10th of tenet, Jerusalem's walls were breached by Nebuchadnezzar, a step preceding the destruction of the temple some months later in Av.

These are all days of mourning. One for the integrity of Jerusalem (the 10th). Another to mourn the passing of community leaders (the 9th). And a third mourns the integrity of Hebrew culture (the 8th). That last one interests me, as a Rabbi who seeks to serve all people, and as someone who first encountered spiritual and Torah principles in translation.

The great calamity on the 8th of tevet was the completion of the translation of the Tanach into Greek. According to the Orthodox Union:

...though the [translation of the Tanach] evoked general wonder in non-Jewish eyes, the day was nevertheless a very tragic day. The sages call it as tragic a day for Israel as the day on which the Golden Calf was made. In Megilat Ta'anit, the Sages described the event as follows:
On the 8th of Tevet, the Torah was rendered into Greek during the days of King Ptolemy, and darkness descended upon the world for three days.' To what may the matter be likened? To a lion captured and imprisoned. Before his imprisonment, all feared him and fled from his presence. Then, all came to gaze at him and said, 'Where is this one's strength?

Yikes. The rest of the month isn't much better. There is one overwhelmingly positive attribute to the month. Upon the very first day of Tevet, Esther was made queen in Shushan. The Purim story is one of inversion. And it also harps on and plays on the benefits and dangers of assimilation. Esther, like Moses, could pass for a non-Hebrew. Moses of course spent his first years of life being raised in Pharaoh's court. Though he fled after defending a Hebrew slave, his return and choice as leader for the Exodus was intimately tied to Moses's non-Hebrew experience.

Esther of course is an inverse of this. She is raised as a Jew in Persia, the time is after the destruction of the first temple. Her identity is not hidden from herself. In fact, in her moment of leadership, she must take hide her identity, to pass. The initiation of Moses's leadership has him coming out loud and clear as an advocate for the Gd of the Hebrew people. Esther too must eventually reveal herself as Jewish to the King Ahashverosh, but in her case, it is a last resort.

And of course, the tension persists. How Jewish is, 'too Jewish'? How much assimilation will make Bubbe roll in the grave? When is it right to reveal your true inner self, and when is it best to just keep your head down? I wish that these were concerns of the distant past that we only read about in holy books, but alas, there is still much hatred for Jews in much of the world - in some places more overt than others.

Remember, though Esther's placement as Queen did provide for the salvation of the Jewish community, that salvation was only required because of a bigoted government policy motivated by ignorance and spite that aimed at exterminating the Jewish population.

Our modern lesson, I think, encourages us to be optimistic. My lesson is in itself an inversion. My evidence is not that the old traditions are incorrect, that anti-semitism is fading, etc. My evidence tells me that this is something of a perennial issue. It is less a matter of we Jews and what we say and do, and much more a function of the overall health of society. I would note that on the 17th of Tevet in 1728 the first synagogue was founded in New York, a metro area that is now home to something just shy of a quarter of world Jewry. On the 26th of Tevet in 1826, the Maryland legislature passed a bill allowing Jews to hold public office (though you would think the US constitution would have provided for that, in the antebellum years the Feds' reach wasn't quite what we're used to).

The utter lack of good news in Tevet, with the shining exceptions planted firmly in the United States, leads me to think that we as a people can survive just about anything the world has to throw at us; we simply have no choice. And that what the world has to throw at us in the US, though not perfect, is more than adequate for now. Tevet is that helpful moderator. It reminds us that we can survive, but cautions us to be sure that we take care in doing so.

A post-lude - New Year's Eve in the secular calendar usually falls during Tevet, as we see it does this year. A happy and healthy new year to everyone. May this be a year filled with blessing and joy. May you love hard and live free. See you in 2013.

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Friends

As it says in Pirkei Avot, get yourself some friends!

In the weeks and months to come, we'll be hearing from two additional voices on this blog. Mr. Shore and Mr. Leave, of Shore Leave Media are both seekers of truth and knowledge, who study with me regularly. Their perspectives on prayer, meditation, self improvement, and Divine Connection are invaluable for me, and I hope they are for you too.

Bruchim haba'im - ברוכים הבאים

Welcome Mssrs Leave and Shore to UnKosher Rabbi. May you do something beautiful.

Thursday, August 2, 2012

90,000 orthodox men walk into a stadium...

The Siyum HaShas is one of those long-form counting traditions in Judaism that makes me think we are somehow related to cicadas.

This photo is of MetLife stadium last night where New York's Frummest gathered to celebrate the end of the universal 7.5 year (2,711 day) cycle of daily (daf yomi - or daily page) Talmud study.

Here's some fluffy local reporting:

For 7½ years, day in and day out, Jews in New Jersey and around the world have studied a new double-sided page of the Talmud, the biblical commentary that, written over centuries, serves as a guide to spirituality and practical life.
Wednesday night, in what was billed as the largest celebration of shared Jewish learning in history, some 90,000 people crowded into MetLife Stadium to read portions of the Talmud’s 2,711th — and final — page.

Being raised in the reform tradition, I have not participated in any Daf Yomi study. We were aware of the Talmud, what it was and when it was compiled. We knew it consisted of many many volumes and that we considered its contents NOT binding (so why study it, right?).

The first time I'd even heard of Daf Yomi was after I'd begun to have contact with the orthodox world. I'd never heard of counting the omer either. Much like Birkhat HaChamah, a quirky practice filled with meaning and significance that my home tradition decided would be too weird to continue doing, Siyum HaShas was not available to me, nor was it a tradition anyone of my elders was personally acquainted with, nor theirs.

I will not, at least not this cycle, be able to study a daf every yom - something about having attainable goals. I will seek out a few resources, though, and I will keep you, my lovely readers, up to speed with what I learn. Maybe at the next Siyum HaShas we'll all be singing and dancing (just promise I don't have to go to Jersey to do it).

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Why God Kills Innocents...





I got an inquiry today from a student. He is not Jewish; he comes from a Catholic background. Though unlike many devout Catholics, he is not immediately hostile to Jewish thought. (please send your objections to my overgeneralization to unkosherrabbi - at - gmail - dot - com)

Here was what he wrote:

Dear Unkosher Rabbi,

I've been reading a book called "Laying Down the sword: why we can't ignore the Bible's Violent Verses" by Philip Jenkins ( The Economist called him America's best schoolar on religion). I just started Chapter 1. And in this chapter, Philip jenkins describes are the wars and slaughters that the Anceint Hebrews perfromed on the Anceint Tribes such as the Cannanites, almokeites, Menitites etc.

It also seems that after egypt, moses was not as peaceful as i thought he was. he comanded the hewbrew warriors to kill all the men, women, and children of anceint tribes. Also the word Harem came up which means "Utter destriction". that means if the other people surrender or plead for a treaty, they couldn't and the Hewbrews would annihilate them anyway.

I don't like how the Hebrews would kill innocent people and how G-D commanded them to kill.

How could G-D and his Prophets allow the massacres of innocent people?

how do people interperet the violent passages?
Sincerely, WTFG-D?!
My response:

Dear WhatThe,
These are very good questions you raise. In fact, this is a big part of what Jewish people and others who take the Bible seriously have been struggling with since the books were compiled.

I don't have a definitive answer, but here's my take: The Bible gives us a snapshot of the world. It tells us about flawed people who are very weak and selfish - but even so, they do incredible things. It tells us about a world that is full of suffering, but even so, there is unequalled kindness and love.

The Bible assumes a world-view - namely that there is One God, and that God is in charge of EVERYTHING - including the bad things. The book of Job is the quintessential expression of this. So in the Biblical narative, we see God pursuing goodness and mercy, but we also see God destroying - even innocent people. (be sure to read Kushner's When Bad Things Happen to Good People)

After all, innocent people actually do die in this world - quite frequently. It is really the exception to the rule that someone 'deserves' to die (though I don't really know what that word means in this context, I use it in lieu of a better one...).

The Bible must reflect the real world and offer us explanations and examples (or counter-examples) of good behavior. It says in Dueteronomy that God gave human beings a choice - to pursue goodness and life, or evil and death. It is this choice that places us firmly within the image and likeness of God. We can choose to create or we can choose to destroy. Getting at this choice, and how we make it, is one of the deeper meanings behind the violent passages you mention. Also don't forget that the Torah is also a chronicle. It is the Jewish peoples' journey. Just because parts of it are ugly does not free us from the history - that would be biblicaly wishful thinking or a spiritually selective memory.

We are in control of what we make of these things. After all - violence is neither good nor evil - but it may be wielded for both. Violence can be employed to cause utter mayhem and destruction, or it can be used to save lives. The Bible is asking us to find the most moral outcome - to choose life over destruction.

I hope this helps broaden the conversation,

The UnKosher Rabbi

Monday, July 2, 2012

Playlist Judaism - Fragmented identities

Shalom readers!

An interesting article in JTA today gives us a glimpse at how the mainstream Jewish community reaches (or doesn't reach) unaffiliated Jews. The article begins with comments from Rabbi Kerri Olitzky, on what he calls Playlist Judaism:

“I no longer have to buy the entire package in order to have the [Jewish] service I want,” says Olitzy, the New York-based Jewish Outreach Institute’s executive director, referring to how iTunes and Napster broke the stranglehold on a music industry that once forced consumers to buy entire albums to hear one preferred song on demand."
Anyone who works in communal outreach, especially with millenials, will recognize this scenerio imediately. Instead of joining groups, individuals now join aspects of group identity to themselves.

How does an ordained Rabbi, affiliated with one movement or another, reach these 'just Jews'? Read the whole article, as they bring in some other voices.

One side-note, R. Olitzky authored a series of 12-step mediation and workbooks through a Jewish lens. If you feel disconnected from yourself and your connection with God, these could be a great resource for you.

Thursday, May 31, 2012

People v Faith Community

Daniel Gordis takes on the schism in American Judaism between peoplehood and faith communities.


Having experienced the best of American values and culture and the best of Jewish values and culture, I think it's difficult to agree wholeheartedly that what Gordis observes is good or bad. It's a new phenominon, for better or worse.

There's an obligation to continue struggling with this. Peoplehood neccesitates the group trumping the individual from time to time. Sometimes that means doing irrational things, like doubling your silverware and skipping the milkshake with your steak, for example.

But connection to a people and a community can enrich one's life in ways that no one can document or analyze. In entirely subjective ways, interweaving your life with others exponentially expands the meaning and implications of each moment. Being conscious of others brings us closer to that part of the Divine that binds us all together. Sometimes it's only by surrendering to the unreason of following milenia-old rules for eating and cooking that we can experience full membership in this funky little people.

In any case, Gordis fiercly defends the concept of peoplehood, and lifts its value up for us to see. Roll around in his ideas for a half-hour or so, see what sticks and see what stabs.